I apologize for the extremely long absence. This reader has rarely found time to indulge in the written word, let alone share her enthusiasm with you lovely people. That being said, I am back once again, hopefully on a regular basis from now on, (and yes, I know I've said that before), and will be attempting to post on a weekly basis.
With all the craziness going on in my life recently, I'm happy to say that I have found a wonderful human being to share my life with. Jonathan, my boyfriend, was my high school crush whom I reconnected with, and one of the first things I remember about him was that we shared a thirst for knowledge and reading. And who could blame me? Being smart is super attractive.
Another point that has merit is that you can learn about someone's personality by looking at what they choose to read. Let's face it: we all people watch, and have probably at some point made an assumption about an individual based on what we saw them reading. With your boyfriend or girlfriend, instead of having to make an educated guess, it provides a segue into asking them about topics they're interested in. You never know, you could learn something or discover a new hobby because of it.
Even reading the same book together has it's advantages. One of the most mind-opening results of having books in common with your boyfriend or girlfriend is that it can help you discover a new perspective. Jeannette Raymond, a psychologist who is seen as one of the leading relationship experts, has noted that, "sharing a book can help partners understand that there are many ways to look at a situation. It allows for another perspective, highlighting the similarities and differences between people, 'each having their own mind, without feeling like they must be at one in order to survive and feel secure,' she says. Couples who discuss books together 'get to check out and discover how their partners receive the same information, alerting them to the fact that everything is not black and white; it’s the lens through which you look that determines how something is experienced,' -- a lesson with obvious benefits in real-life situations".
Jonathan and I have already seen how reading together has helped our relationship to become stronger. Sharing the books we've read together has allowed us to learn and grow from each other, as well as made us laugh many a time with our ridiculous commentary (I swear, sometimes we're too nerdy and dorky for our own good). He even gave me the idea for this post, which I am super thankful for, (although his ideas for the image captions often had me rolling my eyes at him).
So the last thing before I sign off for the night and head into the sweet oblivion of sleep is that I want to challenge all of you, my readers, to try it. Spend some time with your someone, and read. See what it can do for you. For those of you who can still count yourselves as part of the singles club, never fear, you can still take advantage of the awesome science behind reading with another person. Share a novel with a best friend, your parent, anybody who you want to get to know better. You might be surprised by what you find.
With that, I must bid all of you fellow bookworms a goodnight,